Scripture: The wisdom from above is first of all pure (undefiled); then it is peace-loving, courteous, considerate, gentle). [It is willing to] yield to reason, full of compassion and good fruits; it is wholehearted and straightforward, impartial and unfeigned (free from doubt, wavering, and insincerity) (James 3:17 AMP).
Soon after marrying my husband, I realized that my frequent arguments with others caused him great distress. The skill had been learned as a child at the dinner table, when my father and I enjoyed arguing over politics. What began as a competitive game became a well-honed defense mechanism. Now, it threatened my marriage.
During a painful afternoon on my knees, I confronted the this glaring character flaw. Was I willing to give up my need to be right? God would not reach down and take this away from me. It was up to me to release my pride and my fear of vulnerability. I cringed as He showed me the destruction ahead if I refused to change. At last, I surrendered the ugly roots that had wound themselves deep in my heart.
No more could I defend myself with a sharp retort. At first, I felt naked, but then Christ’s beautiful peace flooded my transformed spirit. Soon, my friends said they saw in me a new gentleness. My husband could relax, and our relationship became much better.
Prayer: Father, I surrender daily to Your control over my heart. I will trust You to protect me when I am criticized. Keep my tongue and my soul gentle, more like Jesus.